The pressure and expectation for girls to find a boyfriend is huge. But is it really that hard? In this article, I look at why girls or specifically why can’t you get a boyfriend, and how to get around it.
It’s hard to believe that this is a serious question and yet, there are plenty of women who are asking this question every day. Most of them are single and they are asking this question to themselves, wondering why they can’t get a boyfriend and why all the men left them. Truthfully, it goes both ways, as guys go through the same thing.
At the end, it’s a valid question you asked, but one that can be answered with a lot of factors. Some of them are the following:
1. Understand the Perspective of Men
There are many reasons that can lead to men not being interested in us. They could be too shy, they may not know what to say or how to approach us, or they might just be intimidated by our personality.
However, there is one thing that most men have in common – they want a girl who is confident and knows how to make them feel comfortable.
What you have to understand about men is that they are looking for different things in a woman. This can be hard for people to understand, but there are ways you can find out what it is that a man is looking for.
The first way to find out what a man is looking for is to be there with him when he talks to his friends. If you have a best friend that is a boy, then you should listen to him talk about the girls he likes.
The second way to find out what a man is looking for is to start paying attention to things he does. If you notice that he likes girls with certain hair types, then you should change your hairstyle.
So it really all comes down to preference right? While you think you might need to change yourself for them, you don’t. Along the way, with enough experience, you can tell what kind of guys you should go for. Trust yourself more.
2. You Don’t Date Enough
Dating is a time-consuming, expensive and exhausting process. And it’s not always fun. But if you’re not meeting men, it might be because you’re doing something wrong.
The first thing to ask yourself is: “Why am I not dating?” It could be that you’re over-thinking the whole process and your head is telling your heart how to feel; or maybe you’re too busy with work; or maybe there are men in your life who are just not right for you. Whatever the reason, it’s important to figure out what needs to change so that you can find someone who will make you happy.
How many of us are looking for love? Well, if you are one of those people, you should know that there is no right way to find love. But there are some wrong ways to find it. You need to be patient and persistent. And sometimes, you even have to take a step back and think about the way you look at things before trying again.
Go out more often if possible. Put yourself out there to meet more people. You never know who you’re really going to meet. Remember, just have fun and be light about it.
3. You’re Too Picky.
Well, I guess this applies for male too right? It’s not easy to find the right person, and it’s even harder to find the right person. But don’t give up! There are plenty of online sites out there that can help you find your perfect match.
The best online dating sites for singles vary depending on what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for a casual date or just want to have some fun, then Tinder is a great option. If you’re looking for something more serious, then something like eHarmony is the way to go.
If you happen to have people approaching you to talk, try to make the best out of it (unless he’s creepy) instead of just making excuses to leave. Turn any opportunity you have into something memorable.
Not sure what kind of guys you actually like? Make a list of what kind of personality traits you’d like in a partner down to how you’d like them to look. That way you can filter out guys and narrow down the ones that match closer to your ideal type.
A word of advice – Please don’t make the list too specific or few pages long. You are only making it a lot more difficult. A rough idea would work!
4. You’re Not Approachable
You might find it difficult to make connections with guys because they think you are cold or intimidating. Most of the men don’t like women who look like they are better than them. You have to show some respect, be kind and humble. It doesn’t mean that you have to be a pushover.
You have no idea how many times my guy friends would tell me that they don’t want to talk to a girl because she just looks so unfriendly and unapproachable. And it has nothing to do with confidence.
A guy will only approach you if he sees that you are approachable. Here are some tips to make yourself more approachable:
– Smile often and show your teeth
– Stand up straight and look confident
– Be nice to everyone, even people who annoy you
– Make eye contact with people when they talk to you
– Maintain a positive energy around you
5. Your Career Is More Important Than Making Time For Romance
The work hard play hard philosophy on life is a philosophy where you prioritize your career over finding a mate and making time for romance. This philosophy has been around for a while but it has been gaining traction in the past few years.
I mean this is understandable at this day and age with how fast everything is moving. The society has shaped us in a way that if we can’t have money, we don’t deserve any honey.
This is not to say that this lifestyle is not without its drawbacks. It can lead to a lack of intimacy and emotional connection in relationships, which may lead to an unhealthy relationship or marriage.
Take some time off on weekend to find something fun to do. Relax a little and be connected with people around you.
The last thing you want is to regret not finding a partner before it’s too late.
Time is short, give your all and it will happen. Find out what makes you happy and don’t be afraid to go after it. Make yourself a priority and the right man will come along.
Write down the qualities you look for in a man and the things you think are important in a relationship. If you know what you’re looking for and don’t give up, the right man will come along. I wish you the best in finding a partner.